I was inspired by reading this post called the art of doing nothing.
I am not an official recovering workaholic, I mean I have never gone to a twelve step meeting to deal with it ,but yes I am.
I was a workaholic I just dealt with the emptiness in a different twelve step program.
I have four kids , when I was at work I worried about them. When I was at home I was thinking about work. I was in neither place. When I had the day off I had hard time relaxing without feeling shameful. When I tried to relax I found my self thinking that I should do something. At least clean the house! It is difficult to wind down when,you are like me in such a spiral that It was like I was about to get launched from the planet like a rocket.
When I collapsed I finally learned to relax. Now I sleep in couple of times a week. At least I sleep long enough to wake up by myself (no alarm). If I am tired I lay down and get some rest.I have learned to listen to my body.
I am working on saying no. I had some relapse last year when I had 130% studies, 50-70% work and was stupid enough to say yes to be a chairman of small association. The icing on the cake was investing in a company that was not exactly something I was interested in, just to add things that I did not have time for.
Time that I stole from myself and my family. It goes without saying that none of this would have been possible if I was not blessed with wonderful people around me to help me.
I finally managed to get out, and since August last year I have been working on my own things. Writing, which is my passion. And I have been studying Art history, which I find fascinating. I have been in a sort of protected environment.
Now I am moving back home and I wonder. Am I strong enough? When people ask me to do things I am not interested in. Will I be persistent enough to say no and belive in the things I am doing on my own?
Well that is my task of the day´s and weeks to come
1. Say no to things that others want me to do if I´m not interested.
2. Relax, and practice being there. To be in the now at all times Eckart Tolle style.
3.Believe in me, no matter what others say.
4. Stick to my plan, it is a good one and it will come true, if I don´t abandon it.
5.Be active in my coda program so that I won´t fall back into bad habits
cartoon, taken from Frazzled mommy blog.
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