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It is not in the purpose of the universe that you play it small

Our fear holds us back in life

A fellow blogger A look to the sky was writing about  Marianne Williamson . I had never heard of Marianne. I listened to the video. It made me  want to share her words with you. I think we can newer stop being aware of our tendencies ,to have to play it small. In Scandinavia there is a name for this it is called Jante´s Law. It is created by small people to keep other people down. While as Marianne correctly points out is that;

if we let our light shine we give others the permission to shine too

That is such an important message! Have you seen how laughter spreads?  Same with positivity. The things you focus on will grow in your life. So be sure to focus on the things that benefit you! If you catch yourself being negative on your appearance in the mirror. Think again. Find something that you are happy about and focus on that. Focus on the things that you are thankful for. It has greater revenue of positive self-image if you do!

In this moment everything is exactly the way it should be!

I am thankful and a little emotional to be honest, over all the positive response I am getting from people,  even total strangers.  I am naked, and afraid because I am giving it all I have got. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. It is much appreciated.

Today I am grateful and I feel blessed.


Can you describe your happiness?

Happiness is an ongoing and popular research topic. Every year there are published detailed rapports on the subject. The results are published in magazines, or newspapers.  For you, if you are a total nerd, here is a  PDF of the World Happiness Report,  the whole 150 something pages if you will! According to this report there are various happiness factors we should take into consideration. But what exactly are the happiness factors?

External factors

External factors are , income, it effects your overall happiness  whether you can pay all the bills and then have money to travel or do other things that you like. Like hanging out in a dusty antique shop or a good bookstore.Depending on your places of interest.  Work is a attributing factor, if we love what we do there is not a problem. But if we are working to survive there is not so much fun in it, if all you do is wait for the weekend (that is if you are not working seven day´s a week). Work is not that pleasant experience. .The community and governance has great impact on our lives. In America the privatisation of the education system is probably the greatest worry. People face that they can not afford to pay for education for their children for instance.Then there is the factor of values and religion. I  imagine that people who have found some sort of relationship with their higher power. Find meaning in life.Then we have the  personal factors.

Personal factors

Personal factors that influence happiness. Mental and physical health, they go hand in hand don’t they?  If you lose your health, the only wish you have is regaining it.  The family of origin has a great impact on happiness. In my 12 step journey I have met people who have adopted a new family because the broken one they had did not measure up. Family is not a law of nature. It too can be reevaluated.  Education has impact. And gender and age. Where there is gender suppression or age discrimination‘s the impact on individual happiness can be significant

But in the very end what are the things we regret?

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

These are the things that a nurse revealed as the top five regrets her patients had at the  death-bed. You can read her blog here, it is called;  inspiration and chai. It gives you something to think about doesn´t it?

I point out the fifth regret. I wish I had let myself be happier. Because happiness is a decision. When the pyramid of basic needs has been fulfilled. (I´m not saying that a starving person can choose to be happy, but I´m not assuming she can not.)

So once again be your true self, there is no better version of you.

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