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Summer solstice dance

Let me tell you about last night

I got to enjoy the summer solstice with a good friend, we met up with a group of women (one man) to celebrate the longest day of the year. We did not take any pictures, therefore I  will  find a video from a similar dance and try my best to describe the scenario.

We met about six in the evening and danced 5 rhythm dance till about nine. We did the wave of dance Gabrielle Roth style. Then there was time for food and togetherness. It was just  wonderful.

Here is a video explaining and showing the 5 rhythms of dance;

This is what I did last night, loosen up, totally. Barefoot outside on the ground with a BIG group of people that are just like me, looking inwards in the midst of the material world. We were surrounded by the Icelandic nature and the midnight sun. The rain made the senses dance too. The scent from the birch is unforgettable!

It was lovely and I am THANKFUL for the beautiful moment.

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I can be lazy and I´m proud of it!

I was inspired by reading this post called the art of doing nothing.

I am not an official recovering workaholic, I mean I have never gone to a twelve step meeting to deal with it ,but yes I am.

I was a workaholic I just dealt with the emptiness in a different twelve step program.

I have four kids , when I was at work I worried about them. When I was at home I  was thinking about work. I was in neither place. When I had the day off I had hard time relaxing without feeling shameful. When I tried to relax I found my self thinking that I should do something. At least clean the house! It is difficult to wind down when,you are  like me in such a  spiral that It was like I  was about to get launched from the planet like a rocket.

When I collapsed I finally learned   to relax. Now I sleep in couple of times  a week. At least I sleep long enough to wake up by myself (no alarm). If I am tired I lay down and get some rest.I have learned to listen to my body.

I am working on saying no. I had some relapse last year when I had 130% studies, 50-70% work and was stupid enough to say yes  to be a chairman of small association. The icing on the cake was investing  in a company that was not exactly something I was interested in, just to add things that I did not have time for.

Time that I stole from myself and my family. It goes without saying that none of this would have been possible if I was not blessed with wonderful people around me to help me.

I finally managed to get out, and since August last year I have been working on my own things. Writing,  which is my passion. And I have been studying Art history, which I find fascinating. I have been in a sort of protected environment.

Now I am moving back home and I wonder. Am I strong enough? When people ask me to do things I am not interested in. Will I be persistent enough to say no and belive in the things I am doing on my own?

Well that is my task of the day´s and weeks to come

1. Say no to things that others want me to do if  I´m not interested.

2. Relax, and practice being there. To be in the now at all times Eckart Tolle style.

3.Believe in me, no matter what others say.

4. Stick to my plan, it is a good one and it will come true, if I don´t abandon it.

5.Be active in my coda program so that I won´t fall back into bad habits

 cartoon, taken from Frazzled mommy blog.

The transition routine.

Stress release

I find the videos from»The yoga solution» with Tara Styles helpful. They are easy to follow and the stress release routine she presents here I find works really well.

It is wonderful for someone like me , who is a beginner traveling  the path of yoga, to be able to watch at home and do the stress release exercise. I know that yoga is a way of life. But for us who have not mastered it yet. Baby steps can  be helpful.

The bridge between work and home

She mentions the transition time between work and life. That is nice way to put it. And I think that we should pay attention and make the transition. Leave the work at work. I had the bad habit of bringing my work with me home. Then I was in neither place. Not fully at home and neither fully at work because when I was at work I felt guilty not being there for my family.

YOGA

YOGA (Photo credit: Raios de Luz - Gláucia Góes)

But even when life was at it´s worst for me. My 20-30 minute bicycle ride (in any weather) really made my day. From work to home I got to sweat the day out and the best part was that there was no phone or computer just me and the bike. These minutes often saved my sanity for the day.

Take your time

When I look back I realized this was my daily exercise along with my meditation.

 

Negativity is a powerful tool of self destruction

In the beginning of   my journey to a better life for me I had to break out of a habit of negativity. If someone said something I would automatically interpret what they said, as something negative.

(a  extremely codependent reflex) I was not listening to what was being said,  I was interpreting it. My attitude was negative on all aspects of my life.

Things were going to be better when, if and then.

Sound familiar?

I forced myself to write one positive thing about my children on a sheet I hung up in the kitchen. And it was hard! Not that my kids were difficult or bad. My mindset was tuned on negativity and when negativity is the focus  ,the good things slip from you. But I practiced , and slowly I got control over my attitude. I can choose if my day is going to be good or bad. I make a simple decision. I try  not to dwell in the past and I don´t wait till later to do things that I want to do. That does not mean I don’t have a plan or that I live from day-to-day. It means that I stay in the now. If I´m in my yoga class I am there. Not planning what to do later.

The Power of Now

I think Eckart Tolle’s The power of now gives a beautiful lesson on living here and now.

What I have found helpful is being thankful. I look at what I have now and thank for all the good things. Today I´m really thankful for the beauty of the spring, blooming trees and colors coming back. Cherry blossoms are the most wonderful assets of the spring.

When I move into a new place I make an «altar». On the altar I put candles and incense sticks (Nag Champa is my favorite) , things that are associated with the positive things in my life. The altar has something that represents my children, my dreams and the health and well being of my family. I light a candle to remind myself that I have loads of things to be grateful for.

(Picture of Cherri blossoms  has this website source)